I think we all have those moments when we wish we were different or more than we are. We are so focused on what we are lacking externally that we forget who we are internally; forget what our souls are made of. I have been feeling a bit like that lately and while I did a little work today to repair that, I remembered this post from about a year ago.

Recipe for Self-love
Take full responsibility for your life. Stop blaming others

See yourself as the cause of what happens to you

Do things you like to do

Don’t stay in a job you don’t like

Participate in life at the highest level you can

Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts

Be gentle and kind and patient with yourself

Give yourself the simple pleasures of life abundantly

Wear clothes you feel good in

Get a massage

Watch what you say

Avoid self put-downs

Stop being critical of yourself and others

Take care of your body. Give it exercise and good food

Be willing to create a life-style that generates and nourishes self-esteem

Associate with others with high esteem

Acknowledge yourself frequently

Keep a diary of your successes and accomplishments

Avoid comparing yourself with others

Remember that it’s who we are, not what we do, that’s important

Give yourself permission to do nothing periodically

Schedule time by yourself

Frequently take deep breaths. Discover the benefit and pleasure of breathing fully

Eat first class frequently. Don’t look at the right side of the menu

Stop trying to change others. Focus your attention on being the way you want others to be

Look into a mirror regularly and say “I love you, I really love you”

Stop feeling guilty and saying “I’m sorry”

See mistakes as valuable lessons and avoid judging yourself

Consciously generate positive thoughts and feelings of self-love in place of old thoughts of inadequacy

Be willing to laugh at yourself and at life. Stop taking yourself so seriously

Accept compliments from others without embarrassment. Don’t invalidate their positive thoughts and feelings about you

Be kind to your mind

Don’t hate yourself for having negative thoughts. Gently change your thoughts

Keep your awareness and your thoughts focused in present time instead of living in the past or future

Acknowledge others frequently

Tell them what you like and appreciate in them

Invest money in yourself. Go to seminars, workshops and courses that develop your talents

Make a list of 10 things you love doing and do them frequently

Treat yourself as you would treat someone you really loved

Praise yourself

~Author Unknown


One thought on “Recipe for Self-love

  1. It is always good to remind ourselves of those little things that we tend to ignore thinking that it is the external things that ultimately make us happy. Thanks for the reminder.

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